The Man Who Loved Too Much

Act I: The Door

She said it at 11:47 PM. New Year's Eve. The kind of sentence that should be said at 11:47 PM because it gives you thirteen minutes to process the fact that your life is about to change and thirteen minutes is not enough time for anything except standing in a kitchen holding a glass of wine and watching the person you love walk out the door.

"I have to go, Jules," she said.

I was holding a glass of something — champagne, maybe, or wine, or whiskey, I could not tell the difference at that point — and I set it down on the counter because setting things down is what you do when your hands need something to do that is not shaking.

"Go where?" I asked. Not because I did not know. Because asking the question is the same as hoping the answer will be different.

"Home. I can't — I can't do this tonight, Jules. I can't do any of it."

"Do what?"

"Choose." She said it like a woman who had been choosing for twelve years and was finally tired of the word. "Choose between you and him. I can't choose. I've already chosen. But I can't stand here and choose you in front of the clock and the champagne and the people who are going to ask me about it tomorrow."

So she was choosing Thomas. Of course she was choosing Thomas. Thomas Reed, the structural engineer who builds bridges and never says anything he hasn't thought about for twenty minutes. Thomas, who opens doors and remembers birthdays and looks at Eleanor the way a man looks at a building he has spent his entire career making sure does not collapse.

I wanted to say something brilliant. I wanted to say something that would make her laugh and change her mind and pull her back into the room the way you pull someone out of water that is getting too deep. I said nothing.

11:52 PM. Five minutes. I had five minutes to be the man who would make her stay.

11:55 PM. I had been standing in this kitchen for twelve years and five minutes and I still did not know what to say.

11:58 PM. She put her coat on. She did not look at me while she did it. She looked at the window, at the city, at the clock. She did not look at me.

11:59 PM. I held the door. That was all I did. I held the door.

Midnight. Fireworks over Manhattan. Everyone outside was screaming and kissing and believing that tonight was the night everything changed. I knew it was the night everything ended. Eleanor walked out the door at midnight on New Year's Eve, and I held it open because that was the last useful thing I could do for her — be a doorway.

Act II: The Gallery

I met her in 2012. That is the memory I return to when I cannot sleep. It is 7 PM on a Thursday. The gallery is in Chelsea, white walls, white wine, people wearing black clothes and saying things like "the texture is interrogating the void" and actually meaning it.

She was standing in front of a painting — not looking at it, standing in front of it the way you stand in front of a person you want to know. She was twenty-five. She was wearing a green dress that someone else had probably chosen, and she was looking at the painting the way I had always wanted someone to look at my work: without performing, without analyzing, just seeing.

"You don't like it," I said. I was twenty-seven. I was already the kind of man who cannot walk past a woman who is looking at something without saying something stupid.

"No," she said. "I don't."

"Why not?"

"Because it's pretentious and you know it." She turned to me. Her eyes were the kind of eyes that make you want to be honest for the first time in your life. "But I like that you made it. You made something pretentious and you made it real. There is a difference."

I should have walked away. That is what smart men do when a woman says something that makes them feel seen. They walk away. I did the opposite.

"Stay," I said. "Stay and tell me why I am pretentious."

She stayed. She told me. We stayed up until 4 AM talking about art and pretension and the difference between being good and being seen. She went to a bar afterward. I followed her. She did not stop me.

That was the first mistake. Following her was not the mistake. The mistake was following her the way I followed her — loud, intense, impossible to ignore and impossible to live with.

Act III: The Choice

She chose Thomas on New Year's Eve. I knew she would choose Thomas the moment I met him, which was two years after we started seeing each other, at a dinner party in Williamsburg. Thomas was sitting across the table, listening to Eleanor talk about a PR campaign she had managed, and he was looking at her the way structural engineers look at buildings — carefully, respectfully, with the knowledge that collapse is always possible and you build anyway.

"She's incredible," he said to me after dinner, when Eleanor was in the kitchen helping somebody else wash dishes because that is what Eleanor does — she takes care of everything that needs taking care of, even when nobody asks her to.

"No," I said. "She's not. She's — she's a lot."

"She's exactly what she is," Thomas said. "The question is whether you can handle it."

I could not. I knew that then. I knew it the way you know the weather is going to change when you are standing outside without a coat.

After dinner, Eleanor and I walked home through Brooklyn. The streets were cold. The brownstones were dark. She was quiet, the way she gets quiet when she is thinking about something she is not going to tell me.

"Thomas is a good man," she said.

"I know."

"He's stable."

"I know."

"He won't make me feel like I have to earn his love every single day."

"I know."

She stopped walking. She turned to me. "Do you know what the worst part is, Jules? That I love you. I love you. I have loved you for ten years. But loving you is like — it's like breathing underwater. I can do it. I can do it for a long time. But one day I'm just going to stop, and I'm not going to be able to come back up."

"I will make it easier," I said. "I will —"

"No, you won't." She was kind. She was always kind. "You will try. You will try harder than anyone has ever tried to try anything. But you will not make it easier. You will make it more. You will always make it more."

Act IV: The Door Again

She left me on New Year's Eve. She has not come back. I see her sometimes — on the street, in a magazine, at a friend's event where she is standing next to Thomas and looking at him the way she used to look at paintings in galleries: without performing, just seeing.

I am still an actor. I am still volatile. I am still impossible to ignore and impossible to live with. The reviews are good. The roles are interesting. The loneliness is the same.

Sometimes I think about going to her. Not to beg. Not to perform. Just to stand in her kitchen at 11:47 PM and say, "Go. I will hold the door." That was the last useful thing I could ever do for her. Be a doorway. Let her through.

The city sets itself on fire every New Year's Eve. I stand in my apartment in Brooklyn and watch it from the window, and I think about a woman in a green dress standing in front of a pretentious painting in Chelsea in 2012, and I think about how twelve years is a long time to love someone who loves you the way water loves a boat — holding it up while it floats and drowning it when it sinks.

I loved her too much. I loved her poorly. Those are two different things, and I am still learning which one killed us.

The door is always open. She never comes through it.

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